Any problem that persists is because we focus on that problem. Weight loss is no exception and a lot of us are mentally attached to that problem.
You can tell how mentally attached you are to your weight by how hard it is for you to stick to your routine and achieve your weight loss transformation goals.
This attachment shows up in self-sabotage and struggling to be disciplined and consistent enough to achieve weight loss transformation goals.
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Changing your focus
According to this book I’ve read called Dollars Flow to Me Easily by Richard Dotts, we have the problems we have because we’ve been focusing on those problems, worrying about them, and feeling crappy about them.
We’ve attached ourselves to them by worrying about them and focusing on them.
When we stop worrying about our problems and start focusing on feeling better, our problems get solved.
Some might call this “woo woo” but I’ve witnessed it several times in my own life. When I’ve focused on problems and things I didn’t like, and felt negative, things got worse or I got a lot of the same I was trying to change.
But when I felt better and focused on things I did like, things got better relatively quickly.
I would go into details in later posts.
Here’s how to apply changing your focus to mentally release weight. My theory is that through this process, self-sabotaging behaviors and backsliding will decrease with daily practice.
How to lose your mental weight
1) Challenge yourself to not think about your weight loss challenges, dieting, or anything weight loss related that bothers you.
If it frustrates you, change the subject. If it makes you feel sad, change the subject. If it makes you angry, change the subject. Unless you feel good thinking about it, don’t think about it.
How? By any means necessary. If you start feeling down about how hard it is for you to be disciplined or get started, think about ANYTHING that feels better. It doesn’t even have to be about weight loss.
2) Meditate to feel good 3 times a day for 15 minutes, if you can. One time a day is good too. Practice quieting thoughts and feeling good. How would you feel if you weren’t worried about all the things you worry about?
According to Dotts, feeling good is what brings the goods and comes to us when we do not think about what makes us upset. I’ve tried it. It works.
When we feel good, we attract more of the thoughts that make us feel good. We then get into more of the behaviors that make us feel good and make more decisions that make us feel good.
The more we make a deliberate effort to practice feeling good, the more we do things that make us feel good and the more we don’t do things that don’t make us feel good.
3) Prioritize being in a good place emotionally
We’ve come to believe that in order to solve our problems, we have to focus on them, jump into figuring out how to solve them and feel crappy about them.
But what I have been learning, and living, is that all that focus, struggling, and crappy feelings actually makes problems worse or keeps things the same even if we take actions to change.
Instead, challenge yourself to be in a good place emotionally regardless. If you slip up, acknowledge your humanness, acknowledge your growth, and move on.
Don’t beat yourself up over it. Observe objectively.
4) Build your healthy lifestyle and live all up in it from a good place
Determine your transformation goals, decide what habits you’ll establish to achieve those goals, schedule those habits, live, and track.
Get into living your healthy lifestyle, focusing on getting better at living that lifestyle, and tracking your progress.
As you live your healthy lifestyle, prioritize being in a good place.
I’ve created worksheets for health and wellness goal planning, routine building, and habit tracking. You can check them out at the banner below.
5) Tell yourself the truth about what physically makes you feel good and choose to do those things NOW
I’m currently learning to value how good I feel when I eat clean, workout consistently, and follow my routine over how it feels if I give in.
And I use that to remind myself to make better decisions during my “now” moments. Not tomorrow, not later on today, not next Monday, but now.
Telling yourself the truth about what makes you feel good and doing those things now stops you from procrastinating on making good decisions that align with what you want.
I learned to be more aware of the decisions I make now from Elizabeth Benton’s Chasing Cupcakes. It’s a pretty good read I definitely suggest checking out.
If this focus thing works on weight loss like it works on money, these steps should improve our mindsets and align us with achieving our weight loss goals.
Discipline, consistency, and weight loss results will improve when we stop focusing on our weight problems and instead focus on feeling good and living a healthy lifestyle from a good place that aligns with our goals.
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