• Musings

    The “Before”

    I’m conducting an experiment. For the next year (whew, freaks me out to dedicate myself to a year) I’m going to pray, meditate, journal and read every morning. Rather I want to or not and regardless of where I’m at. My theory: focusing on doing this daily will help me materialize my vision without forcing it. I spent all of 2016 forcing and trying to change so I can move forward in life. By the end of the year, I had seen very little change where I wanted to see change. I ended up changing in a way that took me further away from my goals and deeper into depression…

  • Musings

    How my first year in the thirties went

    Not a major milestone but whoah, I turned thirty-one on December 23rd. Thought I’d be married, celebrating my second anniversary, and planning for my second child by this age. Harty har har. Jokes. I still get the same “why you single” questions I used to get in my twenties. It was cute and a bit flattering back then. Now I’m like… Thirty was a trip. Here are a few things that happened during my first year in the thirties. I established a few concrete “hell naw”s  Struggle love, going half on dates, and “chilling” became a concrete “hell naw” for me. “They” say helping a “brotha” out and lowering standards is…

  • Musings,  Productivity,  Self-Dev

    Learning to stick with it

    I used to be a serial blog murderer. Well, I’ve allow my own blogs to whither away into pitiful existences of old posts and inactivity. It’s a sad sight, but being the woman that I am, I couldn’t allow a few dead blogs stop me from starting another. And another. And another. I kept trying. Searching for answers that’ll transform me from a half-assed blog starter to a fully committed blogger and influencer. That’s my heart’s desire. I know this because no matter how often I move on, I come right back to the same idea. This inability to quit has also been a part of my weight loss and…