Month: June 2016

3 ways to change your diet into a lifestyle and improve your weight loss success

As a recovering chronic dieter, I know the struggle.

You’re constantly drawn to new diet trends like a moth to the flame. One month you’re doing a master cleanse, the next month you’re drinking powdered meals and eating a salad a day.

But nothing seems to really get you to where you want to be: weight loss and weight loss that last.

That was me for a while although I didn’t quite see it that way. Being the geeky, science nerd, hippie that I am, I was constantly reading up on and trying new holistic cleansing methods for weight loss.

I was a vegetarian after I read somewhere that meat allegedly caused weight gain. When being a vegetarian didn’t work out right, I became a vegan. And when that seemed to also stall my weight loss, I went raw food vegan. I saw my diet hopping as lifestyle testing.

See, my train of thought during this time was eat less to see results so I was drawn to holistic methods that required less and less food. Soon after being a raw food vegan, I found myself doing master cleanses and juice fasts to lose weight. Those were even harder to stick to and I jumped on to some other “holistic” method.

Sound familiar? Well here’s the secret to ending serial dieting: stop dieting and start living. Sounds cliché, I know, but it’s really that simple.

When I finally realized I could not starve to get the weight off, I found a lifestyle to stick to, that satisfied me, and made the most sense to my geeky, science nerd, hippie self.

Here are the steps I took to end my 15-year serial dieting:

Step One: Get out of the mindset of “quick” weight loss

The first thing I had to do to change my diet into a lifestyle was to quit expecting quick weight loss. In expecting weight loss to happened quickly, I wouldn’t stick to a diet for very long or I would think I needed to make changes.

Instead of giving a routine time to work or my body time to heal, I would move on to something else to see if I can make weight loss happen quickly.

Step Two: Educate yourself on what is truly healthy eating

In retrospect, this was a tough one. EVERYBODY swears they know what healthy eating is. They’ll swear their methods are backed by science and guaranteed. Even in the holistic and wellness communities. I’ve too been fooled. But as a science and research methods nerd, I eventually came across nerdy information that has worked like a charm.

I suggest starting by going to websites that discuss the paleo diet by Googling paleo. I’ve found that these paleo communities do really well with breaking down misconceptions and myths surrounding health, weight gain, weight loss, and how modern foods affect our bodies. Get lost down the rabbit hole for a bit. It’s a trip.

Step Three: Implement and be easy on yourself. It’s a journey.

 Lasting weight loss and a healthy body is a journey without an end destination. Yeah, you’ll reach your goal weight, but you’ll still have to maintain. Along the way, you’ll make mistakes and that’s totally ok. You might even fall off and gain weight.

Forgiving your self, learning how to improve and moving forward are the best methods. Not only for weight loss, but also for practicing self love. Along the way, it’ll get easier to implement your new, healthier lifestyle and the “mistakes” will come less often. And maybe not. The important thing is to keep trying, starting with baby steps if you need.

At first, I found myself disliking me for not being able to stick to my new healthy lifestyle. But I eventually realized that each time I made a mistake, I learned and grew from that mistake.

I did, in fact, get stronger although I thought I was weak. There was nothing to dislike, just a lot to love and enjoy about the transition.


Recovering from serial dieting took ditching the gimmicks, educating myself on food and being easy on myself. Remember, this is a journey with room for mistakes.

Mistakes are where the lessons are and when the growth happens so don’t beat yourself up. On this journey, you’ll realize that you feel much better without the mistakes and you’ll learn how to avoid them.

End your search for the next best diet and end serial dieting in your life with knowledge, simplicity and self-love. You’ll do just fine.

Paralyzed by fear?

I’m paralyzed by fear. Fear that I’m making the wrong decisions. Fear that it isn’t the right time. Fear that I don’t have the right tools. Essentially fear of failure. It is a fear that is becoming more apparent as I learn more about myself and how “the laws” work. There’s something longing to come out of me, but I’m too afraid to experience what it has in store. Whatever that might be. Fear shouldn’t stop me, but it is stopping me. Right here and right now.

The fear is masked in preparation I once believed was solid movement. Searching for helpful guides, reading ebooks, watching YouTube tutorials, taking notes, jotting down lists and scheduling my days has taken up a majority of my time. I look busy and hold on to the comfort of being able to tell people that I’m working. Which is true. I am working. But this busy work isn’t exactly movement. It’s how I justify stalling and wallowing in my paralyzing fear. My gifts continue to go unnoticed by many, including myself.

In the meantime my bills go unpaid, my accounts accumulate overdraft fees, and my credit card is quickly approaching its limit. I know I don’t want to go back to work for anyone, which strategically places me between a rock and a hard place. I can once again be a miserable employee or I can get over this silly fear. Can’t live on unemployment forever. How else will I create the life I desire unless I get over this fear? How else will I step out and pursue my dreams? No one is stopping me but me and that is a scary thought, yet reassuring to know I have that control.

“They” say being paralyzed by fear is a lack of faith and respect for my unique purpose. If the vision has been handed to me as I am right now, there is nothing more that I need to get started. I am now all that I need to be in order to head towards my vision. As I move forward to the next step, the next level, I will be provided with what ever else I’ll need. I’ll learn what needs to be learned. And I’ll meet the people that need to be met. But all that doesn’t happened unless I move. That’s faith and that’s respect.

But how do I get there? How do I heal myself of this paralyzing fear? Passing this hurtle will make me stronger and conquering fear will become easier. I know it. But how? One thought that comes to mind is practice. Taking on tasks I’ve feared pursuing because I feared failing. Another thought is reevaluating my ideas surrounding failure. Failure, in my past, has meant more accumulated debt and wasted money. Two things I definitely cannot afford to have right now. But I can’t continue to expect failure to be something I can’t afford. Failure is a vital part of success. There are lessons in failure. There is growth and development in failure. There are things I need to obtain from failure. If I’m too afraid to fail, I’m too afraid to develop, grow and succeed. At least on the level I’m being called to do so.

I also must change my expectations. Lately I’ve been absorbing the work of Bob Proctor and Derek Rydell. Both say (what many master teachers have said) you’ll bring to you what you think about and what you expect. If you dwell on the worse, you’ll expect the worse and bring forth the worse. If you focus on the positives you’ll manifest positivity and good things as well as improve your expectations. This doesn’t mean that failure won’t happen, but I’ll no longer expect bad things to come of failure. As a speaker in “You Were Born Rich” mentioned, failures will no longer look like walls, but chances to open new doors. I should expect good and have faith that I’ll be taken care of no matter what the outcome.

Healing from paralyzing fear is practicing faith one “scary” task at a time. It is realizing there is plenty to be had and given with movement and much to lose with immobility. Healing involves seeing failure in a different light and welcoming it as a bearer of gifts instead of a robber of resources. It is settling with the fact that failure is an essential component of success. Healing from this paralyzing fear will be scary, but will get easier with each task. It is important to keep in mind, however, that movement is crucial and the only way to heal.

So I declare to conquer things that scare me. Starting with submitted query emails and letters to blogs and magazines. As well as starting my ebook and sharing these posts in more places.

Are you also paralyzed by your fear? Get started now. I am. It’s important.

Going meatless for weight loss?

I was a miserable bitch without a period and even more agitated than I can hormonally be. Thinking about beef pissed me off, hunger was a monster and I found it unfair. Why did I have to give up meat and fat to lose weight? But I gave it a try anyways. For a year and some change I went meatless by first going vegetarian, then going vegan until I eventually went with all raw foods for a few months. Hovering around 220 pounds for almost a year after initially losing 15 pounds was enough to make me slap any gleefully righteous vegan or vegetarian that swore I just wasn’t trying hard enough. A year and 6 months ended with a beef patty after an intense dream I had about eating a beef patty. Dreaming about meat is where I drew the line.

But some find vegetarian and vegan diets to be the bee’s knees when it comes to weight loss and improving health. It helps them implement healthier lifestyles and see some serious weight loss. However, I find some of these studies and occurrences misleading. Eliminating meat and animal products isn’t really why people lose weight on meatless diets.

Why do people become vegans and vegetarians to lose weight? 

It is believed that vegans and vegetarians weigh less and are overall healthier than omnivores. According to this article, below 10 percent of those that eat meatless diets are obese and meatless dieters typically have body weights 3 to 20 percent lower than omnivores. And this article cited research stating vegans and vegetarians lost more weight than those that eat meat.

Vegetarian and vegan diets are also seen as beneficial for weight loss because they are low in dietary fat, you can freely eat fruits and veggies with little to no guilt, and you don’t have to worry about cutting carbohydrates. Making these diets appear easier to stick to for weight loss. For many looking to lose weight, the thought of having to starve themselves and cut out their favorite foods can be daunting. What looks so attractive about the vegetarian and vegan diets is the idea that there isn’t going to be much limitation on the amount of food you eat because all you have to do is cut out animal products and find healthy subs for your favorite animal products. Well that’s how it was sold to me. As long as the diet is low in fat, new vegans and vegetarians often times have the perception they can enjoy fruit, vegetables, tubers, beans, lentils, vegan junk foods, and nuts as they please and still lose weight.

Cutting out animal products seems like an attractive, simple fix that also comes with “positive” stereotypes. Lets face it, vegetarians and vegans are often times looked at as the pillars of good health. Studies are always saying they weigh less, experience less diseases and cancers, and also live longer. These studies rarely touch upon the other lifestyle changes vegans and vegetarians make, but that’s another story.

Why do people really lose weigh on vegan and vegetarian diets 

Vegan and vegetarian diets do for overweight people what needs to happened anyways: they eliminate a lot of the heavily processed foods that were making them accumulate excess fat to begin with. Those overweight that adopt a vegan or vegetarian diet are sure to see weight loss when they get rid of sugary sodas and juices, stop consuming factory farmed meats and dairy products, remove junk foods, and cut out other processed, chemically produced foods.

Any diet that implements whole foods of the earth in place of the Standard American diet will lead to weight loss. Vegetarian and vegan diets are essentially good elimination diets. But people don’t lose weight on these diets because they remove animal products. They lose weight because they are no longer depending upon heavily processed foods. They cut carbohydrates by hundreds of grams and greatly lower their sugar intake.

I’ve also found that studies comparing vegans and vegetarians to omnivores fail to point out the details of the omnivore’s diet. Are the omnivores of these studies eating whole food diets that include healthy animals or are they on Standard American Diets, eating way too much sugar, way too many carbs and excessive amounts of protein? Likely they’re on crappy omnivorous diets. Of course plant-based eaters weigh less than omnivores when these omnivores are on crappy diets. It’s an unfair comparison and misleading.

Conclusion: So will a meatless diet help you lose more weight?

A vegetarian or vegan diet will help you lose weight, but not because you’ve removed animals from the mix. It’ll help because it drastically lowers carbohydrate and sugar consumption as well as the damaging effects (like inflammation) of heavily processed foods. Any diet that does that is sure to help improve health and lower weight.

In order to accurately determine if vegan and vegetarian diets do more for weight loss than omnivorous diets, studies need to compare meatless diets to whole food omnivorous diets that are geared towards weight loss.

I was still a hungry hippo as a vegan. Tackling hunger and cravings as a vegan caused me to eat much more carbohydrates in the form of nuts, nut butters, sweet potatoes, sprouted-grain bread, brown rice, beans, oats, and dried fruits. I lost weight, but stalled and craved a lot. One day, the cravings became too much and I fried up the fattest beef patty I could. I didn’t feel guilty but was tempted to punch any vegan in the throat that told me I didn’t try hard enough.

What I found to work the most is a diet with much less carbohydrates and way more fat than a vegan or vegetarian diet. So far I’m the lowest weight I’ve ever been and I haven’t regained the weight. Even if I backslide, I remain in better control of my cravings and find it much easier to get back to my routine.

A cool read on “these” studies 

“In Defense of Animal Protein”