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How to Transform Your Life Using a Planner

“Transform your life” sounds like such a huge task doesn’t it?

But with some good old decision making, goal setting, and planning, transforming your life can be broken down into a very doable project, or few.

And you can keep track of your transformation goals in a planner.

Below I detail how to transform your life using a planner in 7 steps.

Decide how you’d like to transform your life

“We don’t have as many problems as we have decisions to make.” – You Were Born Rich lecture

When we make decisions, we cut off other choices, get focused on what we want, and channel our energy towards achieving our choices.

When we don’t make decisions, we’ve essentially made the decision to not make a decision and that leads to being all over the place. We don’t know what exactly has to be done, and what we shouldn’t be doing, when we don’t limit our choices with solid decisions.

The first step I took to transforming my life was to make the decision to transform my life. That’s technically the first decision we make if we do want our lives to change.

The second step was deciding how I wanted my life to transform.

Deciding how you want to transform your life helps you develop goals and plans for the changes you’ll like to see.

Decisions also help your mind get focused on your goals and transformation.

Before you even start shopping for a planner, make the decision you’re going to transform your life and then write down which decisions you’ve made to transform your life.

Change your decisions into transformation goals and then those goals into daily habits

Once you’ve decided how you’d like to transform you life, determine which goals you should aim for to achieve those transformations.

Turning decisions into goals and then those goals into habits is how you increase your chances of transforming your life to how you want to see it transformed. When we put in this work to plan, we’re making ourselves more mindful of what we’d like to achieve.

When we neglect our decisions and don’t take the time to write out our transformation goals and map out what daily habits we’ll need to have, we lower our chances of achieving them and fall right back into old habits.

How often have you “decided” you were going to achieve a particular goal and within a few months that goal was sitting somewhere gathering dust?

We’ve all seen this happen. New Years Eve rolls around and we’re hyped to make all types of new declarations and changes.

Then by March of that year, our decisions and goals have shriveled up and died only to be revived again in January.

Instead, let’s try something different this year and work through our decisions to transform our lives until they’re solid transformation goals and daily habits.

Choose a planner system that’ll fit your transformation goals

Are you a creative with goals to take your freelance business to a whole new level?

Perhaps you’re a girl boss working a full-time job with hopes of becoming a full time entrepreneur in 6 months?

Or you’re like me and you’ve got body, finance, and location transformation goals on your mind.

Luckily, there are planner systems out there that can help you keep track of the goals you’ve got set for yourself. There’s planner systems with meal planners and fitness trackers, habit trackers, cycle monitors, and even project planners for entrepreneurs.

Do your research. You might also find that a standard planner system will do just fine.

Add your daily habits to a habit tracker

Once you get your planner, make sure you add your daily habits to your habit tracker.

Habit trackers are cool and all, but as I have discovered with myself, they really do not work unless you’re committed to completing those habits daily.

I suggest building a daily practice “studying” your daily habits and reminding yourself of your goals and reasons as to why you want to achieve those goals.

This isn’t a practice that’ll take long either. In the morning, read your list of habits for the day and then read your goals and reasons once. Then go on about your day.

I also find it helpful to use Google Calendar’s goal tracker function. While in the app, select the + sign in the bottom right corner and select “Goal.”

Google has a few goals to choose from. There’s one for Exercise, building a skill, making time for friends and family, saving “me” time, and organizing your life.

Once you add your goal, you can set how often you’ll want to work towards that goal, how long you’ll do the task on those days, and the best time of the day for you to do them. Google can then set reminders for you to get them done. And when you’re done, you can check them off.

But like I’ve set a bit earlier, no habit tracker will keep you on track unless you make a commitment to stick to your transformation goals.

Think about what weekly, monthly, and quarterly tasks will help you stay on track

In your planner you’ll also want to schedule which weekly, monthly, and quarterly tasks you’ll need to complete to keep you on track with achieving your goals.

These tasks can include:

  • Meal planning
  • Grocery shopping
  • Weekly planning, monthly planning, quarterly planning
  • Weekly or monthly weigh-ins and body measuring
  • Weekly, monthly, quarterly goal setting
  • Weekly, monthly, quarterly review
  • Scheduling social media
  • Facials, pedicures, manicures, spa treatments, hair appointments
  • Budgeting

Schedule check-ins and reviews

I’ve had the most success with my goals when I checked-in with myself and did reviews of my progress regularly.

These check-ins and reviews help me keep my transformation goals on my mind and adjust accordingly to stay on track.

Check-ins and reviews are times to reflect on what you’ve been doing and what progress you’re making. You can determine if there are changes you’ll like to make and pat yourself on the back for what work you have been putting in.

Schedule times to review your progress weekly, monthly, and quarterly.

Start by planning your health and wellness transformation goals with my goal planner worksheet

I’ve put together a health and wellness goals planner worksheet to help you identify and plan your health and wellness transformation goals.

With this form you can turn your goals into daily habits and determine when during the day you’ll complete those habits.

Complete the form below to get started on planning your transformation goals.

I’d love to hear how it goes so please feel free to shoot me an email if you’d like to share. 🙂

Weight Loss Transformation Resources

If you need help with your weight loss transformation or looking to start strong on your transformation goals, please check out these weight loss transformation resources I’ve created based on my own weight loss success and research:

Weight Loss Transformation Journal + Workbook 

How I IF on Keto Free Guide – 3 things you can do today to improve your weight loss results with intermittent fasting 

How To IF on Keto – successful keto diet meal plan + intermittent fasting schedule + workout + food lists + transformation journal and more 

 

 

What action steps I took to get unstuck and manifest

And when I say real flow, I mean that flow that moves you forward. I think sometimes we get movement mixed with flow. We can be moving and getting busy, but still experience feelings of stagnation and the frustration of being stuck. Movement can bring about flow, but understanding what type of movement generates flow helps a ton.

I went through a whole year of doing plenty of moving and being busy, but when I looked around at my results, they just weren’t happening. I wasn’t making the type of progress that allowed me to feel unstuck and like I was flowing.

That type of “stuck” led to festering negative thoughts and resulting behaviors. I do believe this stagnation brought me deeper into addiction, depression, and a compulsive eating disorder.

Below, I get into what I learned about being stuck and how it felt so you can identify if you’re also just being busy instead of taking action. I also detail action steps I learned about and took to get things moving again.

With these action steps, I manifested the type of job I wanted, I was able to get off of assistance, and I started seeing real results.

What does not flowing look like?

It’s like any body of water. If there is no flow, splashing around the water every once in a while, or even daily, won’t keep the water clean and bring in the new. It kicks up stuff, but those things just settle again. Think swamps and pools that sit with no filters running.

The water gets murky and some organisms might die out due to the increasing algae. There’s usually only enough ecological space for a few organisms that can take it and maybe mosquitos might come by to eat. Organisms live there until the murky water dries up if too much time passes between rains.

I’m finding our lives are the same. If we’re masking procrastination and lack of self-validation with the busy work of planning and researching without action, we’re simply splashing around water in a self-made swamp. When we notice we’re not getting where we want to go, we kick up stuff like negative self-talk and negative reinforcement.

It’ll only settle to the bottom to be kicked up again. Things aren’t flowing so our visions get murky. We can’t see the steps we need for progress because we’ve stopped our flow by not taking meaningful action. Only meaningful action brings us to our next steps.

Since we can’t see them, we begin to lose hope or take steps that don’t truly serve us. We’ll fill our time with meaningless relationships and activities that don’t serve us, including addiction. Our lives get murkier and we either just deal until dried up or we try to “splash around” the water again. A rain will come around, but it only fills us with more stuff to let sit around.

Luckily, there are actions steps!

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be a swamp. I realized this after listening to a few self-help and development gurus speak on the importance of meaningful action and doing things that generate flow.

And these things don’t have to necessarily be about your specific vision, goal, or ideas. They can be activities that signify release, sharing, love, self-validation, and self-permission.

So I’ve rounded up a few things I’ve given, and will give, a try to get things better flowing in my own life. Some of these things I’ve picked up here in there and some I’ve tried to get things moving. Discovering this was dope. I’ve generated enough flow to actually keep my promise to myself to build this blog faithfully. Yay!

Cleaned out my closet: Donate or Sell, but there is a different flow of energy between the two

Clearing out clutter makes room for more. Letting go of those cute, but old purses you haven’t used in hella long, clearing out clothes you haven’t worn in a while, tossing out old piles of magazines and newspapers sitting around, and even cleaning out your junk drawers help.

I’ve found that doing this gives me a sense of space and helped me feel like my mind can be de-cluttered as well. And this did in fact happen in some round about way. It’s not like I cleared out my closet and then wham, I had this idea to practice organizing my thoughts. No. It just put the idea out there that’s what I wanted and eventually I was back to meditating, praying, reading and journaling again. I’m feeling clearer on things now.

And there is a difference between selling your things and giving away your things to make space. When you donate things, you let them go without them lingering behind in some way. You release them without worrying about their value or making a profit.

Although the extra cash might be nice, donating is a different kind of flow than selling. Going back to the bodies of water that flow example. They flow because that’s what nature intended for them to do. They don’t flow because they need to survive or want more. They just flow. This flowing then keeps them functioning as they should. The way nature intended.

Not to say that selling things won’t generate flow. They definitely can. You’re still making space and clearing clutter. However, the clutter has to linger around until you find someone to sell it to. You’re then left with the responsibility of finding out where to sell it, how to sell it, then you have to sit around and conduct your sell.

If you sell your things online, you’ll have to post, share, and if it sells, ship it. You can take it to a second hand store where they buy your clothes, but sometimes that even means more waiting. When you sell, you’re waiting and depending upon someone else to de-clutter and make space.

Selling can also generate a mindset of finally asking for the money you know you deserve. Perhaps you’ve been too afraid to sell your services or market your own products. If you sell your stuff and you’re successful at it, you can strengthen your confidence in being able to sell.

I’ve found for myself, when I try to sell things, they sit around longer and are objects I still have to come back to. Matter of fact, I think I just decided to donate those purses I wanted to sell. They’ve been waiting for me to post them online for a few weeks now.

Create just to create and then share

If you’re feeling as if ideas aren’t coming to you as easily anymore or as if good ideas don’t even come around like they used to, start creating just to do create. Stop worrying about creating to attract people that’ll pay, sounding “right” (whatever that means), and being correct. Just create.

You can keep these worries-free creations to yourself or you can share them. If you’re building a creative business and don’t want to share something too out there on your business profiles, create other accounts to share on freely. Create another Instagram account or Pinterest. I like Medium.com for my writings and I have a second Instagram for my creative ideas. I’m not that good at sharing there yet, but I’m getting on it.

Creating just to create generates flow because it allows you to create without the restrictions of creating for someone else and you can indulge in creativity freely. It allows you to practice coming up with ideas without the pressure of making sure they’re good ideas. And it can help you become more trusting of your own ideas and abilities.

Plus it’s a good self-love practice to exercise your talents for just yourself. I like writing just to laugh at my own jokes and admire how good I am. I grew up hearing I’m a good writer, but it’s nice when I can look at my own stuff and say, “damn I’m a good writer.”

If people like my stuff, then good, but if not, I’m fine with that too. And that reminds me of a good point I’ve heard about creating for shares and likes. I believe it was on a podcast of Black Girls in Om. Creatives can get sucked into creating for likes, shares, and popularity instead of creating from a more inner, authentic place.

The pressure is real, but can make creativity not so much fun. Plus, if you’re creating to fit into what other people will like and share, when do you evolve your own self and attract those that need your authentic self and message? Keeping this in mind has helped me break free from creating posts to fit in. Flowing like crazy.

Volunteer Your Time or Join/Start a Meetup.com Group or Two

Push away from that desk, get out of that coffee shop, close that laptop or power down that desktop and meet with other humans. I had to remind myself of this because boy oh boy can I become one hell of a hermit.

I’ve gotten so caught up in building my creative business that I’ve spent weeks, you hear me, weeks wearing nothing but leggings, t-shirts, and oversized socks while I worked away like crazy in my rented room. There’s only so much creative inspiration one can find from a room, the backyard, and the Internet.

Getting out among other people, participating in a cause you like or want to learn more about, meeting with others, and getting involved generates flow because it helps disconnect for a bit. Disconnecting can help you get a whole new view and find ideas you wouldn’t have even thought of from places and people you couldn’t have imagined could help.

And it can help you create a network of new sources of information and resources. You never know whom you might meet or what opportunities can be waiting for you when you volunteer to help out somewhere or meet up with a group of people that share your interests. There are all types of untapped resources out there in the world. Generate real flow in your life by getting out there and finding them.

Don’t volunteer and meet up just looking for these opportunities though. You can, but sometimes it’s much more rewarding and easier to find when you let these things stumble on to you because you’re getting out more. Be receptive, but don’t force it. I’m learning force isn’t where the magic happens.

Get Still and Visualize

If you’re into self-development and spirituality like me, you’ve probably also heard about the power of stillness and visualization a lot. It is reiterated so often because it is really real. It helps. Like seriously, it helps.

When I think about getting still and visualizing, I’m reminded of Ms. Badu’s Window Seat song when she says she doesn’t want to time travel no more. She wants to be here. Me too auntie Badu. Me too.

For me, getting still and visualizing is how I stop time traveling and stay here. Now you could say, “but Latrice, if you’re visualizing, aren’t you traveling.” In a way, but it isn’t the type of time traveling that often times holds us back, gets us caught up in fears, or rehashing old situations that upset or hurt us in the past.

This type of time travel in getting still and visualizing is about getting back to respecting our imaginations and our dreams. We get old and get too damn realistic and rational about everything. We worry about the how before we let our dreams and imaginations just do their thing. Without worrying about how something was going to happen, when did you just dream and imagine getting all that your today self wants? Do you even know all of what your today self wants?

Getting still and visualizing generates flow when you’re able to imagine without worrying about how it’s going to happen and what has happened in your past or what you think might happened in the future. Just imagine. What do you really want to happen? How will your perfect day go? How will making all the money you want to make look like? What will you buy? What will you do? What are all the things you want to do?

Or you can get silly and just imagine whatever. Travel to space, be a pre-colonial, West African queen. Bask in royalty. Some cool ideas come out of this type of imagination too. Get connected with how you might feel.

You can get still and visualize in silence or you can turn on some music. I personally like music especially when I’m visualizing wealth, prosperity, and abundance. I turn on the type of jazz I hear in boutiques, eating at Santana Row, in spas, in model homes, at professional offices, or when my mom took me to a country club. I listen to music I’ve heard in settings where the people have money, are eloquent (for the most part), and are more likely to be cultured. I even listen to music I’ve heard at really nice restaurants. I happen to really like jazz as well so that’s a plus.

Another good type of music I like to visualize to for wealth, health, travel and abundance is bossa nova and other types of music with earthy sounds from around the world. I am a true fan of music and have a pretty open ear so I’m always picking up something cool to listen too from other cultures that aren’t of America.

Conclusion

There are several other ways to generate flow also, but doing things that show yourself love, get rid of the old, and exercise your creativity are great places to get started. If you’re feeling stuck, the best practice is to step back and do something else. Do something that’ll help you stop thinking all about that thing you’re working on. That way you can come up with ideas outside of that space.

Hope this helps. If you have any flow generating techniques you’ve used, I’d love to hear about them. I’m into trying different things. Please share. Drop a comment below.

Weight Loss Transformation Resources

If you need help with your weight loss transformation or looking to start strong on your transformation goals, please check out these weight loss transformation resources I’ve created based on my own weight loss success and research:

Weight Loss Transformation Journal + Workbook 

How I IF on Keto Free Guide – 3 things you can do today to improve your weight loss results with intermittent fasting 

How To IF on Keto – successful keto diet meal plan + intermittent fasting schedule + workout + food lists + transformation journal and more 

 

 

“How to Build Self-Discipline” – Weight Loss & Mindset

I’ve learned a few things about self discipline since I’ve been working on my personal development goals.

First, self-discipline isn’t limiting, it’s liberating. I had to learn self-discipline allowed more freedom than it did restrictions. It’s actually more restrictive on life to lack self-discipline. Lacking self-discipline is being controlled by substances and habits that don’t serve. Being controlled by a lack of self-discipline means other things in life, you want to enjoy, can’t be experienced.

Learning that my freedom from cravings and food addiction, and ability to have more in my life, came from practicing self-discipline allowed me to start having more appreciation for it. It caused me to start paying attention to getting better.

Secondly, self-discipline isn’t something you’ll need when the action becomes a habit. I try to keep this in mind as I form new habits for healthy eating, exercise, writing, and reading daily. It takes on average 66 days to form a new habit (as you’ll see below). I figure that’s about 2 months of marking a calendar and setting timers until the habit is formed.

Lastly, self-discipline and consistency is what makes the difference. Practicing self-discipline all week and then cutting loose on the weekends typically doesn’t work unless it’s an activity that only requires you put in work during the week or only on certain days. But if it’s related to healthy eating, exercise, going to bed at a certain time, or getting up early, then you’ll need to be consistently disciplined for the new habit to form.

Below are three helpful lessons on building self-discipline that helped me see improvements. They’re from YouTube channel ProfoundSelfImprovement.

“How to Build Self-Discipline Lesson #1: How to Form a Habit”

Points from this lesson:

Self-discipline can be simplified by automated behavior – create a new habit

Automated behavior prevents you from breaking your resolutions

On average, it takes 66 days to make a new habit automatic.

Once it becomes a habit, you’ll need less self-discipline.

Habit = Que + Action + Reward

Create healthy keystone habits to change several other bad habits. Keystone habits: exercise, food journaling, meditation, waking up earlier, trying a new thing everyday, saving money, expressing gratitude.

 



“How to Build Self-Discipline Lesson #2: What is Your Why?”

Points from this lesson:

Self-discipline is about controlling your temporary urges to meet your long term goals.

Simply keeping your goal in mind isn’t enough. Give yourself a minute to visualize your goals. Take your mind off the craving.

To get the most out of your why, learn the proper way to visualize. Simply visualizing your goals is more likely to take you off track.

Visualize the process.

Envision each action you need to take in order to achieve your goals.

Train your mind to prepare yourself for the challenges.

 



“How to Build Self-Discipline Lesson #3: Be More Selective:”

Points from this lesson:

Be more selective and focus on essential tasks. Tasks you find pleasant and play off your strengths.

Trying to do too many tasks at a time will work against you in the long run. That’s why the first step to forming more self-discipline is keystone habits.

Ask yourself how your new goals and habits fit into your general plan for your life.

Make sure you’re working on goals you want for your life and not what others want for your life. Be selective.

When setting your own goals, keep your goals in mind. Do things you genuinely believe to work and want to achieve.

Being more selective will help you increase your self-discipline and reach your goals.

 



Weight Loss Transformation Resources

If you need help with your weight loss transformation or looking to start strong on your transformation goals, please check out these weight loss transformation resources I’ve created based on my own weight loss success and research:

Weight Loss Transformation Journal + Workbook 

How I IF on Keto Free Guide – 3 things you can do today to improve your weight loss results with intermittent fasting 

How To IF on Keto – successful keto diet meal plan + intermittent fasting schedule + workout + food lists + transformation journal and more 

 

I Quit!!!! The Challenge to Quit Waiting

 

There hasn’t been a post around these parts for some time now.

The reason?

I’m afraid. I’m afraid of looking tacky and creating crappy content that’ll waste my time and does little to serve me, my goals, or my targeted audience.

And that fear has kept me waiting.

(It’s also why I’ve posted less than 40 times to this blog over the last two years.)

For the longest I’ve told myself it was a justifiable hold up because I like to step out with my best foot forward.

I like to create high quality stuff from the beginning. Especially when I know what high quality looks like.

High quality, in this case, being content that serves my goals and audience, good pins that’ll bring in traffic, and optimally placed affiliate links.

But in doing all this planning, I haven’t written anything. I haven’t gotten to create and enjoy what I love to do, which is write, blog and create. I’ve been WAITING!

I’ve fallen into the habit of waiting to be good enough to get started without realizing that’s what I’ve been doing.

The Challenge

Quit waiting and just create AND publish!

Publish even in the fear of looking tacky or feeling unprepared.

Create and share even when I feel I don’t have all my ducks in a row.

Have fun here instead of continuing to worry myself into missing out on what I love to do.

It’ll also be a challenge that’ll teach how to trust the gut and rely on intuition.

Trust, for a change, that good content can be created even when everything isn’t figured out just yet.

Get free.

This week’s inspirational gem

Today I seen this video from Jake Ducey in my inbox and it lit a fire under my ass.

It confirmed for me that I need to get out of my head and stop waiting to be ready and for a better opportunity.

What are some things you’ve been waiting to get started on? Waiting for the perfect time to start your weight loss journey? Waiting for a better time to start writing, start that project, or ask that question?

I’ve been waiting too, but I’m going to challenge myself to quit waiting.

An essential aspect of creativity is not being afraid to fail. – Dr. Edwin Land

5 simple self-motivation daily practices that’ll lesson the blow of hard days

[UPDATED 12/16/18]

Self-motivation is a must on this transformation journey. Especially for those days things get challenging and insist on testing you. >:-|

There are several ways to practice self-motivation. These are the main five I use daily to keep calm, get shit done even on rough days, and stay motivated.

self-motivation daily practices

 

Self-Motivation Practice 1: Spend a few extra moments in bed

The practice can begin as soon as you open your eyes. I’ve actually found it easier to motivate myself when I’m fresh out of a slumber.

Right when I wake up, I practice self-motivation by giving thanks for my accomplishments and all the good things I’m experiencing. I spend a few extra moments to be quiet and give thanks, show appreciation, give myself kudos, and shower myself in love and loving thoughts.

Spending a few extra moments to be happy with what is going right and what I do have has been a valuable practice.

It has helped me have more appreciative thoughts, instead of criticizing thoughts, throughout the day which has actually brought more things for me to appreciate into my experience.

Another way this practice has helped me stay motivated on bad days is by making the bad days when I don’t feel motivated last a lot less time. It has become easier or me to think myself out of a funk and back into good feelings. My bad days used to last weeks. And when I was really unaware, bad vibes will last months.

My last bad day lasted 12 hours.

Get into this practice and see what happens. I’m a believer for reals!

Self-Motivation Practice 2: View your vision board and goals

This is my favorite daily practice because it makes it easier to practice visualization.

And there’s something about seeing images of what I’m creating that keeps me pumped and focused. Reading my goals regularly, along with viewing those images, helps my mind associate the goal with an image.

I find that it’s easiest to stay self-motivated with images because it helps my mind link the goals with the images. It also makes visualizing much simpler.

Self-Motivation Practice 3: Read and, or listen to inspiring quotes and affirmations

Like your body needs healthy nutrients to function properly, your mind needs good thoughts and ideas to help you do your best.

I’ve turned my car into a mobile classroom and while I’m at work, I listen to inspiring, personal development and law of attraction content all day. Not only do I get to learn, but I also pick up on different things to try.

Listening to and reading quotes, affirmations and other material helps big time.

Self-Motivation Practice 4: Remember to remember your “why”

The big picture gets hard to remember when I’m tired, feeling stressed, want to cut loose, or get frustrated with my results.

That’s why for those days, I’ve made it a point to get back in touch with my “why” and the big picture on a daily basis.

Sitting with my “why” and focusing on visualizing my big picture has been a powerful motivator.

Self-Motivation Practice 5: Take good care of your body

The better I take care of my body, the better I handle stress and stay motivated on those tough days.

Taking good care of my body also improved my self-discipline. Improving self-disciplined improved my self-motivation.

Being disciplined enough to stick with it, work when I don’t want to, and find solutions is straight up self-motivation.

Conclusion

These are all pretty basic, but still, work wonders. Especially on those days when things are really challenging and I feel like giving up.

Gratitude, visualization, remembering your “why,” feeding your mind good stuff, and taking good care of your body are all great tools for having self-motivation.

Failing at Making New Habits? Maybe It’s Your Self-Image

Have you ever kicked-ass at something for a few days, weeks, or months? You’ve done really well and thought you got a handle on making lasting changes. Then something happens and you’re knocked off.

Progress slows and soon you’re back up to your old habits. Doing stuff you thought you’ve put behind you, and eating crap you swore you were done with.  You’ve pushed yourself for a bit, you worked hard for a bit, but you’re back to old habits.

I’m there. I kicked ass for a few weeks, stuck to my diet, and felt really good about my progress. And then the weekend dates and parties started to hit, knocking me off my discipline.

To be honest, I allowed them to. But why? Why is it we fall back into old habits despite doing well and making changes we said we wanted to see?

According to what I’ve been learning lately, it’s due to an outdated self-image.

What is a self-image

We act, behave and feel according to what we consider our SELF-IMAGE to be and we do not deviate from this pattern. – Dr. Maxwell Maltz

In the Born Rich workbook, it is also stated that

Dr. Maltz also explained that the image you hold of yourself is a premise, a base or a foundation upon which your entire personality is built. He concluded, this image not only controls your behavior, it controls your circumstances as well.

Our self-image is our foundation. It determines our actions and controls our circumstances.

If we’re finding ourselves falling back into old habits, sabotaging our progress, and getting lazy again, it’s because we need to do the work to change our self-image.

Why you need to change your self-image

I like how Bob Proctor breaks down this concept in his Born Rich workbook. He explains that the self-image is like having a set temperature (a set goal) that is maintained by sensors that detect deviation – cybernetics.

CYBERNETICS…is the science of control and communication in animal and some machines. It is based on the fact that both biological organisms and some machines have sensors that measure deviation from a set goal. These sensors signal “feedback” into a coordinating mechanism (your nervous system) which corrects the output or behavior of those same organisms or machines.

For instance, if you set the temperature of a room to 72 (set goal), and the room gets cooler than 72, the heater will turn on to get back to 72 degrees.

In us humans, our self-image is like a set temperature. When we deviate from our self-image, our behavior changes to get us back on track to our self-image (set goal). We get lazy on keeping up our new habits or we start cutting loose on our diets.

Changing our self-image is essential to making lasting progress and beating backsliding.

How to change your self-image

In Born Rich, Proctor explains that the process of changing one’s self-image takes a daily practice of visualization and journaling. As well as playing prosperity consciousness material daily.

Visualization is relaxing the mind and then getting a view of who you want to become. I’ve seen it explained as letting the image come to you and I’ve heard it explained as deliberately viewing yourself already doing, being, and having what you want.

I’m learning to visualize twice a day, writing my new self-image twice a day, and then learning to be more and more like her each day. I also look at my vision boards on Pinterest and in my Success Journal.

The change will take time

What I have to remember in all of this is that changing my self-image will take time. It won’t take a ridiculous amount of time, but it will take time.

Mistakes will be made and backsliding will happen, but it is up to the individual to remain persistent and to be expecting that growth and development.

That’s one of the major things I have to remind myself of so I’m not beating myself up. I didn’t become this person overnight, so it is highly likely it won’t take overnight to change. And it is ok to make mistakes. As long as I keep going and have faith, I will grow.

Resources

You Were Born Rich by Bob Proctor

You Were Born Rich Part 1/3 

You Were Born Rich Part 2/3

You Were Born Rich Part 3/3

You Were Born Rich (audible) 

Rev. Ike on Visualization

The Basic Laws of Attraction and Visualization (The Science Behind Visualization) 

Visualization Begins with the Imagination (A Law of Attraction Principle) 

Rev. Ike – Power of Visualization 

The Formula of Prosperity and Happiness (with bonus visualization treatment) 

The Visualization Treatment You Need to do Now For Health, Happiness, and Prosperity 

 

What I get done in a weekend for optimal slay during the week and tips

I’m getting pretty darn good at my weekend routine. My weekend routine is about getting as prepared as possible for the following week. If I can do it ahead of time, I’m going to get it done on the weekend.

For me, that’s cleaning, washing, and organizing, editing and scheduling blog posts, as well as grocery shopping and doing meal prep.

This practice has helped me juggle starting a business, writing a blog, living healthy, taking online courses, doing my mindfulness work faithfully, and even having the time to incorporate daily habits like reading and writing for an hour.

I get all of that done in a day as a pro because I use my weekends to get whatever I can get done ahead of time, done.

This makes my week super successful and leaves me satisfied with my productivity and accomplishments.

Below are a few tips and activities for setting yourself up for a less stressful, smoother running, more successful week.

Don’t “Waste” Your Weekend Just Chillin’

If you’ve got a side hustle, I’m sure the weekend is like your “yaaay!” time to dig into your hustle. But if you’re new-ish to this, you can still fall into treating your weekend like free-time to cut loose with.

I used to get to Sunday and regret not getting more done. See, I had a terrible habit with losing hours scrolling social media. It seemed as if I zombied out and it took over an hour to find out what I was doing.

Yo, when researchers say Facebook and other social media platforms are addictive, they really are. If you find yourself losing hours on these things, seriously cut back. It’s not just you. They ARE addictive.

Anywho… what I did to get out of the habit of chillin’ super tough on the weekends is I started making myself aware of the benefits and associating pain with not getting things done.

For instance, if I was scrambling during the week because I didn’t get it done during the weekend, or if I had to deal with a dirty, unorganized room, I didn’t ignore it. I reminded myself of how much smoother and how much better I’d feel if I cleaned up on the weekend.

Soon enough, during my weekends I was remembering how awesome it made me feel during the week if I got stuff done.

But Trice? Aren’t weekends meant to chill?

In case you are feeling a little apprehensive about sacrificing your free-to-do-whatever weekends, let me give you a bit of motivation I used on myself.

I too felt some type of way about putting in all this work during the weekend. And then ending the weekend with room to only do a little cutting loose.

It’s a sacrifice, but well worth the sacrifice and then some. Then, it’s nice to remember if your goal is to quit your day job, this is only temporary and gets you to that goal faster.

Plus removing the hassle of having to do more than necessary during the week has truly changed the game for me. And will likely to the same for you. 

So what do I get done with my weekends?

Whatever I can get done ahead of time.

Grocery shopping, cooking, meal prep, laundry, nails, hair, cleaning, organizing, editing and scheduling content, adding to my vision board, and reading blogs.

What I love about weekends is I don’t have to get up the next morning two nights out of the weekend. I can stay up as late as I need to so there’s even more room to get stuff done.

Getting as prepared as possible for the week by getting this stuff done during the weekend is how I get even more stuff done during the week.

How has all this helped?

To reiterate, getting stuff done during the weekend creates more time and allows me to be way more productive during the week.

Before I tightened up my weekend routine, I had to deal with having an unorganized space. I lost time in the mornings packing meals. And some days things weren’t cleaned so I had to worry about getting them clean the night before work. Huge hassle.

Having a clean space, meals packed, clean clothes available, freshly washed hair, new nails, and an organized workspace raises my vibes and really makes my weeks so much better.

I’m also sticking to my plans now, planning my days, weeks, and months more routinely, and keeping up with my mindfulness exercises.

Conclusion

If you’ve been playing with the idea of getting more stuff done during your weekend, it’s time to seriously put your weekends to work.

Since tightening up my weekend routine, I’ve had more success during my week with keeping my plans and establishing new habits like reading for an hour a day and writing for an hour a day.

One of the major tricks to having a super successful week has been getting as much done ahead of time as possible.

It is well worth the sacrifice.

It’s Time to Let the Struggle Go

Struggle, rather we want to accept this or not, is a choice. The struggle is only as real as we make it. The struggle to survive, the struggle to open a business, the struggle to thrive, the struggle to just make it through the day… All struggles we have a choice to either participate in or not.

What makes struggle a choice? Our perception. Struggle is defined in a few ways, but I believe the best definition in this context is “strive to achieve or attain something in the face of difficulty or resistance.”

Struggle is also defined as “make forceful or violent efforts to get free of resistance or constriction; have difficulty handling or coping with; engage in conflict, and make one’s way with difficulty.” Those definitions define struggle as a verb.

As a noun, struggle is “a forceful or violent effort to get free of restraint or resist attack; a conflict or contest; a determined effort under difficulties; a very difficult task.”

What I notice off top about struggle is resistance, difficulty, difficulty coping, conflict, and force. Do we have to resist or force things? We do not. Do things have to be difficult or difficult to cope with? They don’t. Challenging? Yes. Difficult. No. There is a difference. They definitely can be difficult and are for many of us, but don’t have to be. Conflict and force are also things we do not need to participate in. Shocking. I know.

Now, now. I know what you’re thinking. I used to think the same. When my mom would tell me I didn’t need to resist, find things difficult, find it difficult to cope, deal with conflict and force, I would get even more pissed off. My feelings and how I saw my situation was real to me and here was my mom telling me I had a choice in the now although my situation wasn’t changing then.  

See, to me, these things were real and I was very right for how I felt. It WAS difficult for me and I DID authentically feel conflict, resistance and force in my day to day life. Especially after I quit my “good” job to pursue writing full time. The battle was a steep, uphill one I made real and that struggle was one I acknowledged and called real every day. The pain, the anger, the depression, the hopelessness and everything that came with struggling, I felt.

I was right to feel the way I felt as we all typically are when met with challenges in life. But did you ever question if being right and justified about your current feelings really had your best interests at heart?

Was it really healthy and beneficial for you to acknowledge the struggle and affirm it daily? Did it help you reach your goals faster if you acknowledged and felt resistance, force, difficulty, difficulty coping, and conflict daily? Did you feel better and more empowered because you kept it real about the struggle?

Personally, hell no. Hell naw. Hell to the no acknowledging struggle didn’t make anything better or move faster for me. If anything, affirming struggle to myself made things even more difficult, brought more conflict and resistance to my life, and made my eyes juicier than they had to be.

I cried a lot and if I wasn’t crying, I was getting ready to. My thoughts made me angry, made me feel helpless, made me feel hopeless, and made me feel stuck, trapped and frustrated. Acknowledging the realness of the struggle in my life made life suck from the inside out. Not only was my situation shitty, but even my feelings were shitty enough to make me actually tear up at work. And I was a front desk receptionist! Not a good look.

Then something freeing happened. I finally took my mom’s advice and abandoned the struggle. By far this was not an overnight process. It took me months to shed, but babaaay when I did? I started appreciating my life as is.

The physical tension of struggling lifted off of me. I had less things to cry about. Pain stopped bothering me and the doom, gloom and negative thoughts that made my head hurt softened until they faded away.

When we struggle and affirm to ourselves how real our struggles are, we’re speaking on what is going on right now. Some people believe this is what they have to do. It’s important to keep it real and realize their struggles regularly.

The problem is our current situations have absolutely nothing to do with our present truths. Yea, sounds woo woo, but peep game.

They’re the results of thoughts and beliefs that have controlled our perception, actions, and choices. What is going on around you right now is essentially old news. Old thought news anyways.

So when we struggle and keep it real about this struggle, we’re continuing the thoughts and beliefs that created the struggle to begin with. We keep thinking struggle so our perceptions, actions and choices will continue to create more struggle.

Can’t fix a problem at the same level of thinking that created it.

What’s the solution? It really is as simple as making the decision to stop struggling.

No, your situation doesn’t have to change first. You do. Matter of fact, you must if you want to start seeing changes.

I’ve found the quickest, simplest fix is to start lying. Lie to yourself about how you feel. Hell, you can even lie to yourself about where you live, what you drive, who’s your boo, what shoes you usually where, where you work, and that you go on vacations. One time, I was lying so good I messed up and told a coworker people looked at me and thought I had money. This was when I first started at my new job (the one I got after I made the decision to stop struggling) and I was still heavily rotating the nicest things I had in my closet.

You’re not struggling. This is a great, challenging opportunity to grow. You’re not sad. You’re happy and feeling fantastic, knowing you’re being pressed to become that diamond.

Now, if you’re clinically dealing with depression, or feel you might be, please do not take me saying it is as simple as changing your thoughts to change those conditions.

Clinical depression is something that can improve with lifestyle changes, but that change can begin with more hopeful thoughts for healing and recovery.

And don’t just lie about any old thing either. Tell yourself you live, do, and have what it is you would rather be living, doing, and having. Tell yourself you feel the way you want to feel. And tell struggle it’s the lie.

Like I said before, I used to believe being right and true about everything was what I was supposed to do too. But when I started telling myself I was fine, I eventually started feeling fine and the circumstances of a person that felt fine started to come about.

I got a job that pays at least enough to take care of the basics. I’m no longer on food stamps. And I really don’t deal with emotional pain like that anymore. So much so that I’ve been able to quit smoking weed like for reals this time.

Now, you are left with a choice. You can continue to keep it real, telling yourself the truth about where you’re at, and affirming your struggle regularly. Or you can drop the struggle and start having a good time.

Don’t expect a quick jump unless that’s where you’re honestly at emotionally. I do understand some pain is too deep to just start speaking positively. But you can stop being so detailed about it.

For instance, I’m 40 pounds overweight, had an eating disorder, and used to binge eat to the point that the skin around my abdomen felt sore and tender to the touch. I was eating so much my skin stretched and ached.

What started changing this behavior was when I stopped identifying as a binge eater and accepting that struggle. I stopped digging into figuring out my addiction to food. Instead, I started telling myself I ate healthy, that I stopped when I was satisfied, and that I didn’t eat unless I was hungry.

Eventually, I became aware of what was triggering my binge eating and learned to avoid foods that were addictive to me like the plague. When I decided to stop struggling eternally, I stopped struggling externally.

Dive right into this concept or take baby steps, but you really do have a choice to release struggle. You don’t have to be right and keep it real about the struggle all the damn time. Soon you’ll find it’s best not to keep it real about those things at all. Give it a try. You’ll see.

What has improved productivity in January

Truth be told, I’m doing alright.

I spent the first few weeks of January slacking off but did put my foot down by the third week.

Scheduling my new habits in time slots instead of referring to a list

My new daily habits were scheduled into my calendar and I’ve been really good about following them.

Keeping up with new habits was definitely something I’ve struggled with. Scheduling them into my planner and drawing a checkbox next to them seriously motivates me. I don’t like seeing unchecked boxes at the end of the day. And scheduling them helps me remember them.

My new health routine was hard to implement in the first few weeks. I kept letting weekend trips and visits from friends throw me off my food list and intermittent fasting schedule.

Getting back on track and improving by listening to audibles daily

Listening to “Never Binge Again” by Glenn Livingston and “You Were Born Rich” by Bob Proctor on my morning and evening commutes have DEFINITELY helped.

Actually, listening to these two books daily have helped improve my performance overall.

“Never binge again” and my hijacked eating behavior

“Never Binge Again” teaches how to separate ourselves from our “fat thinking selves” which he describes as the primitive part of the brain. It is the part of the brain evolution equipped us with for survival so we can crave and act on what we need. The problem is food industries know this and use it to their advantage to keep us eating and buying their foods.

Can’t make much money if people ate what and when humans are supposed to eat. Contrary to conventional knowledge, humans are equipped to go for longer periods without food.

Learning to treat my hijacked natural urges as a beast incapable of making sound decisions, I’m able to simply tell it “no.” No debating, no conversation, no sweet-talking it to hush up. I just straight up tell it to shut it’s damn trap as I go on with my day.

Sounds harsh, but I remember how that heffa has kept me from the health and body goals of my dreams. How she’s been super selfish as to sacrifice my health for her needs. She doesn’t give a damn that I’ve cried and beat myself up over folding to her desires. All she cares about is getting more of what she wants.

Thinking this way about that part of the mind really does make a difference.

“You Were Born Rich” and Limiting Beliefs

The second book I’ve been listening to is “You Were Born Rich.” It is recommended that readers listen to the lecture every day for a month or so. (The audible is a lecture based on the book.) I’m in my second week. It details how to take what is rightfully yours by changing your self-image. Your self-image is what determines your results.

This book has helped me re-examine my dominant thoughts in some way shape or form daily. I’m questioning how I think and the conclusions I come to about why I’m not doing what I want to do.

Questioning my beliefs

One of the biggest things I’ve been unearthing these last few days is my belief. My belief in myself and my belief in my ideas. See, I like to sit on my ideas and I’ll play with them in my head for a very long time. Usually, so long they fizzle out and die.

I had to ask myself why I do this? I asked myself, “if I knew my idea was guaranteed to make me $1,000 a week, and all I had to do was put in the work, would I really be sitting on it? Hell no! My bills are due and my insurance just went up! Plus I am sick and tired of living paycheck to paycheck. Makes having a job suck even more.

I mean… I love getting money, don’t get me wrong. But I thought about how tiring it is to have a job I show up to five days a week only to be able to barely pay my bills and not have any money to enjoy larger, finer things in life.

Hell, to be honest, I’m not even able to afford all my bills on my salary. Like, whaaaaaah???

Anyways. Listening to that book got me to thinking, I’m sitting on a lot of shit I want to do, can do, but just don’t believe I can do to get what I want. So we stopping that right now.

February will be the month I stop hiding my ideas and start testing them. At least enough to see if they work for me.

How are you doing sis? 

Case Study: Working with mind science vs. not

It was December 30, 2016 when I realized I had been doing things the hard way. The year had been a rough one.

I “left” my job in April without a cent in savings but a nice chunk of collected PTO and unemployment to hold me over for at least 6 months. The day I left was the happiest I had been in years. Work was a toxic place of unappreciation, terrible gossip, and people hated each other enough to actually sabotage the flow of business. After three years of hard work put in, 2016 started out as an ugly year and by April, I was out dat bitch.

Made goals, failed goals

With all this newly freed up time, I made myself a few goals: create a livable income as a writer within six months, build my online business with digital products and services within three months, and lose about 40 pounds by July. The research was conducted, a plan was made, and I got started.

However, by the end of 2016, I was dead broke, on food stamps, had no business, had no clients, had gained weight, was regrouping from addiction, and was mentally in a really dark and angry place.

Wondering what happened to the year and why none of my goals were met. And why did I come out worse but started out with the intentions to do better?

What was especially defeating was all the “hard” work I thought I was putting in. I took online courses, invested what I did have in group coaching, did workout and eat healthy… when I could, and even sent out postcards (once) and set up a website with emails to do business.

But the fruit didn’t come, the struggling didn’t pay off, and I was DRAINED.

The power of mind science

In December I got reconnected to mind science, prosperity consciousness, the power of thought, and the Law of Attraction. I became particularly interested, of course, in learning why people don’t reach their goals and why I had failed at reaching my own despite all the busy work and “effort” I was putting in. And what the hell did it really take?

What I learned was we usually don’t reach our goals because we forget, or are never taught, to make sure we’re thinking in a way that aids in reaching our goals. Our minds can either work with us or work against us when we’re trying to achieve new goals. Especially those that stretch us beyond our comfort zones.

In working against us, the mind doesn’t mean any harm and is actually trying to keep us safe. Primitively, our minds favor towards habits, familiarity, and noticing hesitation to stay safe.

When we’re trying to reach new goals, the mind can work against our efforts by holding tight to our habits and habitual thinking, shying away from things that are unfamiliar, and giving us a thousand reasons to hesitate.

Given that our goals usually require new habits, new thinking, becoming familiar with what’s currently unfamiliar to us, and movement regardless of hesitation (fear, doubt, worry), our minds can snuff out our efforts. Leaving us frustrated and unsuccessful. 

We end up wondering why we can’t get ourselves to do the things we say we want to do.

We get the mind to work with us by learning how to work with our minds.

When our minds or on board with what it’ll take to achieve our goals, they make the achievement of those goals MUCH EASIER. Ideas flow and things click. What you couldn’t see before becomes easy to see. And that little voice that usually convinces you to eat the extra cookie will instead remind you of your health goals and keep you on track. Properly working with the mind is how successful people reach success and achieve their goals.

How my life changed using mind science

So I put in the work.

I prioritized working on my mind and beliefs overtaking action. Making sure I always made time and took time to work on my mind and learn how to work with my mind. Even if that meant getting something done later. Eventually, I found a routine that worked best for me and ran with it.

I noticed a difference within the first month.

My mood improved. I stopped feeling trapped, powerless, angry, hopeless, and frustrated. The power and control I have started to become more apparent to me.

The information I needed to hear fell into my lap. Including this 4-hour discussion, I had with my wise uncle about having a job to fund my passions.

By September 2017, I was employed full-time again and able to pay my bills. I got a job at a tech company in a city where it is said to be really hard to get a tech job. A tech job at a great company is what I asked for and I got it.

And I’m sure if I would have been consistent about doing that mind work, I would have reached more of my goals. Definitely valuing all those emotional shifts I experienced in 2017 for sure.

The benefits of working with the mind

Working with my mind has definitely proven more beneficial to achieving my goals. Reading my affirmations and goals daily, visualizing, and listening daily to prosperity consciousness, mind science and the law of attraction material has helped me overcome many of the hurdles that were in my way. Including the ones I didn’t know of. It’s not a quick fix, but definitely a practice that continues to improve my life and align my beliefs and thoughts with my goals every day.

Working with my mind is how I work smarter instead of harder to reach goals I’ve failed at before. Contrary to conventional knowledge, working harder isn’t always the answer if you’ve failed at achieving your goals. Especially if you’re someone that has attempted to reach those same goals several times like I have.

Conclusion

I’m curious to see what other changes I experience doing this work more consistently in 2018. I’ll definitely be sharing my experience, process, lessons learned, and results right here. You’re definitely welcomed to join the challenge to prioritize working with your mind. Every week I’ll be sharing a few posts that’ll detail practical steps for how to apply this work to your routine. It’ll be fun.

Happy New Years!